It’s always “How” you do things and not “What” you do that makes the difference. How you say and do a thing will always determine what you receive in return. Give attitude, you may receive attitude back or feedback that you may not like. Speak or behave rudely or in an ill mannered way to others and you may get in-kind behavior in return or feedback you may not like. Even in and through the trials of life, there’s a way to go through them. My trials should not dictate my behavior toward others; so much so, that no one should even know I’m going through something because my attitude, demeanor and the God who resides in me never changes.